The Painful Effects Of Divorce On Children
June 27, 2011 by admin
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Divorce generates many negative feelings in a child’s mind. Many think that they caused the problem and think that they can change it. Many feel like since their parents stopped loving each other, then they’ll stop loving them too. There are new living arrangements to get used to and financial strains that didn’t exist before. Children would do anything in their power to stop the divorce and save the marriage.
No matter which parent the children are assigned to live with, things have changed. One of the parents may be forced to take on a second job to make ends meet. The non-custodial parent may not have enough money to afford a decent place to live if they’re stuck paying large child support payments. Parents may be distracted, depressed, and even cry a lot, and children pick up on every bit of it. They definitely don’t understand why there is so much sadness if this is what their parents want to do.
When a child’s mind is so full of pain, it’s difficult for him to concentrate on school work, and grades fall. They constantly compare their past and current lives. It’s very hard for children to understand why their parents don’t love each other anymore. They think their parents should just try harder to fix the problem and restore their family. You tell them you’ll always love them, but how can they be sure when your love for each other died?
Children these days can see what real marital problems are, especially if they visit a friend’s house. They’ve seen things like Billy’s dad hit his mom, and they know that one time he hit her so hard her arm was broken. They think that his dad must really hate this spouse, yet the two of them are still together. They also know that it wasn’t like that at your house, and they wonder why, if your marriage wasn’t nearly as broken as their friend’s parents’ is, you aren’t together any longer. Children won’t understand why you’re not seeking help in order to fix the problem. Ultimately, they feel like they just aren’t worth it to you.
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Kristie Brown writes on a variety of topics from health to technology. Check out her websites on marriage advice, marriage help and free marriage advice