‘Owning’ Your Feelings Is A Step Toward Self Confidence

Would you like to build your self confidence? Among the simplest approaches to achieving that goal is to work on getting in contact with your feelings.

That concept will a little odd, but many folks need to achieve confidence in their own emotions as a prelude to having better feelings about their own selves. you may have invested a lifetime in conditioning yourself to disown and suppress your feelings. If this is so, then you have some deprogramming to do for yourself.

Remember when you were a youngster, playing in the park, when a bully ran up to you and shoved you off the sliding board? If something like this never happened to you, iimagine it in your mind’s eye. How would you (or did you) feel about something like that? I’d wager that your feelings in that particular moment were sharp and crystal clear — and I’m sure you had no problem in letting others know them, whether through shouting or sobbing, or even running after the mean kid and trying to wallop him back.

I do not recommend striking out physically at do things you don’t like, but short of that, what is wrong about acknowledging your true feelings in every situation, the angry and unhappy ones as well as the sunny and cheerful ones?

Sadly, most people in this modern world have had drilled into them that they should squelch their feelings, and even to name some feelings as bad. Some persons have learned this idea so thoroughly that they don’t any longer even understand what they are feeling from minute to minute. You absolutely must get in touch with those feelings|emotions] if you want to make progress in building your self confidence.

You accept your feelings when you acknowledge their reality. From now and forever, give yourself the freedom to experience every feeling that wells up inside. You should not try to choke it off or ignore it!

When you are watching a sad show on television, allow yourself to let the tears flow. If you witness some event that strikes you as uproariously funny, let yourself have a good deep laugh, even if you are out in public and other people look at you curiously. Yell about the inconsiderate person that just swerved in front of you on the expressway, and keep yelling until the angry feeling or just naturally extinguishes itself.

Owning your emotions, without condemnation, will free your real self simply as a consequence of facing what is happening for you at any given instant. And freeing that real self that you have kept hidden even from yourself all these years is virtually guaranteed to turbo charge your self confidence.

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