Self-Esteem Advice
One day when I was around my early to mid twenties, I went to the hairdressers for my monthly trim. This woman enquired about whether I had heard about the tragic car crash that had recently occured. I had not heard of any crashes and therefore she started to tell me about the horrible accident.
Three young men who were all aged twenty-two, were on the way for an evening in the local public house. One of the men was speeding and was unable to keep control of the car. His vehicle had then careered straight into a large tree, all three of the people in the car had died at the scene.
She continued that one of the men which had died, had worked in the butchers, which was only two doors away from her shop. She described the man in question, which turned out to be a person that I knew, just to say hello to. This was a person I would walk past on the majority of mornings and we would say a quick hello to each other.
Later on when I was at home, I started to think even more about this particular person. Even though he was friendly, he always looked quite stressed and did not seem that happy. My guess is that he would have perhaps been more care-free and positive had he known that he did not have long to live.
It should not have taken this kind of tragedy to bring me to my senses, but it did. Morbid as it is I pondered on the thought that we all have to die at some stage and that none us know when that day will come. I am sorry if that is a bit morbid, but it is true. Not all of us will live until retirement age and our lives could end tomorrow.
I have always been a bit of a worrier; mainly about my speech I suppose as I had a stuttering speech impediment. I did eventually manage to gain fluency via an intensive one-to-one stuttering therapy course but even then I started to worry about business; I work for a composite door company and for a business cost reduction specialist on a part time basis.
I now have learnt to stop stressing so much – life, I have now learnt, is just too short.
How To Stop Stressing
I am a person who used to stress in a big way. At one point a work colleague made a comment that he thought that I walked around with the weight of the world’s problems on my shoulders. Things though had to and were about to change.
I then went about reading lots of books about mind over matter and positive thinking.
Panicking and fretting about any given task does in no way make it any easier. In fact it makes it a whole lot worse. The important thing to remember is that in life all you can do is try your best. When a negative thought or worry enters your head you need to immediately ignore it and to change your thought processes into thinking about something which makes you happy or smile. You have to treat these demons as your worst enemy and fight them away. Treat it like a war and be determined not to let them win the battle of minds.
I had always been a worrier; this is something that commenced in childhood probably due to the fact that I had a stutter. I did attend stuttering treatment however I only managed to overcome my stuttering problem when I was aged twenty-two after watching a seventy minute self-help therapy DVD which I bought from The How To Stop Stuttering Centre in Birmingham, England.
I also learned to become a much more care-free person and I also now appreciate what I have in life rather than worrying about what I do not have.
These things have helped to improve my life in a big way; as an example I am now a successful business man selling composite doors and I also offer a professional DVD authoring service.
I hope the above stress-relief tips help other people as much as they have helped me.