Self motivation and self discipline.?
Okay so here it goes.
When I was in primary school I was one of the smartest kids, I was never rude to anyone, I always completed all of my work and homework, I never had a problem with self motivation or anything.
This started to go down the drain when I started Year 7. I became friends with ‘rebellious’ type of people, and started not doing homework, talking back to teachers, swearing etc.
In Year 8 I moved, so I had to start at a new school. I was completely back to how I used to be in primary school for the first few months – quiet, respectful, polite, did all of my work and homework, smart, came either 1st, 2nd or 3rd in everything etc. – and then when I made some close friends, I guess I began to relax more and now I have completely deteriorated.
I’m starting Year 12 next week.
From Year 9 onwards, I have been rude and disrespectful, I’ve had 1234567890 detentions, I’ve nearly been suspended, I don’t do ANY homework, I hardly ever do work etc. and because of this I am coming either last or second last in literally every class.
This year my behaviour and respect and stuff has improved, and I’m still a good person.
However, my procrastination, laziness and lack of self-motivation and self-discipline are the WORST they have EVER been.
I do NOTHING. This doesn’t just apply to school work, it applies to everything in my life.
My bedroom is a mess, it have been like that for a few months now. I keep telling my parents and myself that I will tidy it, but it doesn’t happen. I am satisfied and feel good once it is done, but somehow that is not enough to motivate me.
This is the same with homework and study. I just had exams, and I didn’t even study for them because I have NO self-motivation or self-discipline, and so I failed them all.
I want to lose weight and get fit. I thought I could start by walking my dogs every day… I did it once or twice and never again.
I can’t motivate or discipline myself.
I can’t even get up in the morning, because I am too lazy. My alarm is set for 6.30am, but I usually don’t end up getting up until 7.30 which makes me late for school.
I have tried drawing up a timetable for myself. I followed it for a day, refused to follow some things on it the next day – such as "walk dogs", I was like "nah, can’t be bothered." and then that was the end of that.
From the second I get home from school at 2.45pm, till the second I go to bed at 10pm (ish), I am on here. MySpace, Facebook, MSN… I can’t help it. Deleting them is not an option, so please don’t suggest that.
This is really bad and it bothers me SO much. Yet I can not help myself.
I’m not sure there is anything anyone out there will be able to say to help me.
But if you have any advice, it’d be greatly appreciated.
Thank you so much, and I’m sorry that this is so long.
Also, all of my teachers say that I have the ability to do really well and place in the top range of students, I just have to apply myself.
This is my last year of school and I want it to be an amazing one.
I want to impress everybody.
Thank you Jimbles and Nic. 
Thank you for your help Brigitta, but I’m pretty sure I don’t need to see a counselor. My friends aren’t like, not good people. I love them to death, they’re the best friends I’ve ever had.
And I’m not depressed, I don’t have anything to be depressed about.
Once again, thank you.
It sounds to me like you are depressed. Lack of motivation is a serious part of depression. Maybe you should tell your parents you would like to speak to a counselor just to get it checked out. Obviously this is something that is bothering you otherwise you would not be mentioning it at all. If you don’t want to do that you should sit down and think about how much better you feel when you do the "right" things.
School was very hard for me socially and it made me feel bad about myself. Is that the problem? It was easier for me to hang out with the not so good kids because then I didn’t have to be perfect. It seems like you wouldn’t have a problem with the grades if you felt better about other things. I think you should talk to your parents about seeing a counselor.
Good luck and hang in there. You seem like you’re pretty smart. I hope it works out for you!
I was exactly the same. I guess I was luckier though because even though I was very smart and stopped trying, I still held the same marks.
Maybe you need to change your focus. I think that we can get stuck on the rewards we received as kids and not progress them into us being older and changing the way we view the world.
Tbh, I dont really know what changed me. I think I just got out of high school, knew I could of done better, and then started working. Try to change what your trying to achieve.
And I know its sooooooooo cliche, but you have to do it for yourself. Unless you have someone guilting you into doing better (which is never a good thing lol), then you wont get better if its not for yourself.
If its too hard to start everything at once, just try to do your maths study this week. Then next week do maths and english until you get used to it all.
Most important thing to remember? For all the posturing, rebellion and can-not attitude, in the end you leave school with only your marks. The teachers will move on and you’ll be the only one who suffers from it, sadly.
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wow. well try and find SOMETHING to motivate you
im in yr 12 this year… currently ”studying” for my HSC which starts in about 6 days (yeah im a bit screwed… anyway)
to exercise: a boy inspired me to exercise
i really liked him and i knew how much he loved sport so i got fitter/ thats probably a bad reason to do it. but he is lovely.
to study: find a course you really want to do at uni/tafe/etc. it took me the firs few months of yr 12 to find my course but when i did i had a number: ”86” which i had to hit. that has been my motivation.
my room: i painted a wall…. myself… you have no idea how much that made me love being in my room and wanting to keep it clean.
sorry if this doesnt work for u
it worked a little for me…. i am a pretty lazy person … i just want to sleep all the time. today i slept in till 11 when i should be studying… anyway not important!
also
set your alarm and put it on he other side of the room.
that will make you get up
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It sounds to me like you are depressed. Lack of motivation is a serious part of depression. Maybe you should tell your parents you would like to speak to a counselor just to get it checked out. Obviously this is something that is bothering you otherwise you would not be mentioning it at all. If you don’t want to do that you should sit down and think about how much better you feel when you do the "right" things.
School was very hard for me socially and it made me feel bad about myself. Is that the problem? It was easier for me to hang out with the not so good kids because then I didn’t have to be perfect. It seems like you wouldn’t have a problem with the grades if you felt better about other things. I think you should talk to your parents about seeing a counselor.
Good luck and hang in there. You seem like you’re pretty smart. I hope it works out for you!
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