Solutions for self motivation?
I’ll briefly describe what my situation in order to better understand what this question is about.
I am 18 years old. My mom passed away in December of 2007 a couple of days before Christmas. My dad left me when I was 2 and is not in contact with me at all.
After she passed away I went through a bit of turmoil, unsupportive family, school was hard, so on.
I lived with my aunt and uncle for several months but criticism between each other reached its limit and I moved out and to my friends house.
Over the span over about 1.5 years, (since my moms death), I’ve been slowly going down a slope of de-motivation. I can’t get out of bed anymore, I want to live a successful life. But the road I am on now, I won’t graduate. I only 3 classes to pass and I am having a hard time motivating myself to pass them to graduate.
My question is… are there any methods to make self-motivation easier to come by. All I want to do is graduate high school and continue on to a higher education. I have aspirations but not the motivation to achieve them.
I have my phone set to wake me up at 6, 6:10, 6:30 and sometimes all three of those don’t wake me up. My counselor calls me in the morning to wake me up and today that didn’t even wake me up.
I know I have a moderate case of depression but not enough time to fix it. I have about… 7 weeks to get my school work in check. All I need is D’s to graduate…
You obviously have had and still have a tough situation to deal with, with all that’s happened in your life, especially recently! Please give yourself a hand for just hanging in there!
What about writing down as many of your personal life goals as you can think of? Imagine in your mind in great detail what you think it would feel like to reach your most cherished goals someday. Then see if you can relate graduating from school with realizing or not realizing some of these most important goals. How necessary is graduating school to your life goals? Maybe then you’ll find the motivation to finish school. Just a thought.
I’m certainly no expert at motivation, but I think imagining goals in your head, then imagining yourself reaching them, might be a first step to motivating yourself. Good Luck!
do you have any tricks for self motivation?
Honestly? Most of the time, I try to remind myself that it’ll be worth it once I’m done, whatever it is.
Or, if I’m not particularly fond of the task at hand, I’ll just work through it as quickly as possible without thinking too much about it, all the while muttering under my breath, "Just do it, it’ll be over eventually."
Self motivation problem, or just lazy?
Okay, so here is my deal… I am trying to figure out if I have a self motivation problem, or if I am just lazy…
I am most definately ALWAYS tired, no matter how much I sleep, wether it’s 4 hours or 10. I am a married woman with two children who are school aged. I always have the intention to do something bigger, better or different. But when the oppertunity arises, I don’t feel like doing squat!
I work hard at my full time, dead end job, and desperately want to get ahead. I have even enrolled in school (again). This time, I will follow through… Or will I? I definately have commitment issues with anything that doesn’t relate to getting married, as I did when I was 18, or having children which I did right after.
So am I lazy, or just not motivated?
How can I motivate myself to do more besides what is demanded, and/or required? I would love to be one of these "super" mom’s who wake at 6 am, do laundry, have a hot breakfast, and shower before the kids go to school…
Help!!
It’s not my job, I actually hav fun at the dead end low paying job! I don’t think it’s depression. I have pretty much been this way for as long as I can remember. I did try therapy a few years ago, and was on anti depressants, but they didn’t help, and I then stopped taking them.
Cut yourself some slack, woman. You work full time at a job you really don’t like, you are raising two kids, of course you’re tired. The thing is, you have to figure out what you really want to get out of life. Going back to school is great, but only if it’s helping prepare you for a job you really want, not just a slightly better version of the job you already have. Frankly, you sound kinda chronically depressed and stuck on all the things you think you are supposed to do. That’s robbing you of the joy of doing the things you wanted to do: be a wife and a mom. Don’t compare yourself to what you think other people are like. Few of us are all that "super". My kids learned long ago how to make their own breakfasts and lunches because we all want to sleep as long as possible at my house, mom included, so we’re all on our own when it comes to our morning routines. What is important is that you find one area in your life in which you’re doing something for yourself, something that makes you feel good. School could be that, but only if you really want to be there, not if you’re just doing it because you think you’re supposed to. Change your thinking about your life. Start overcoming your commitment phobia by making a commitment to yourself. You need dreams and goals, not just "intentions" to motivate your heart and mind. I really understand how easy it is to get bogged down in day to day life. Reawakening motivation takes a constant effort, but it’s worth the struggle.
Self motivation and self discipline.?
Okay so here it goes.
When I was in primary school I was one of the smartest kids, I was never rude to anyone, I always completed all of my work and homework, I never had a problem with self motivation or anything.
This started to go down the drain when I started Year 7. I became friends with ‘rebellious’ type of people, and started not doing homework, talking back to teachers, swearing etc.
In Year 8 I moved, so I had to start at a new school. I was completely back to how I used to be in primary school for the first few months – quiet, respectful, polite, did all of my work and homework, smart, came either 1st, 2nd or 3rd in everything etc. – and then when I made some close friends, I guess I began to relax more and now I have completely deteriorated.
I’m starting Year 12 next week.
From Year 9 onwards, I have been rude and disrespectful, I’ve had 1234567890 detentions, I’ve nearly been suspended, I don’t do ANY homework, I hardly ever do work etc. and because of this I am coming either last or second last in literally every class.
This year my behaviour and respect and stuff has improved, and I’m still a good person.
However, my procrastination, laziness and lack of self-motivation and self-discipline are the WORST they have EVER been.
I do NOTHING. This doesn’t just apply to school work, it applies to everything in my life.
My bedroom is a mess, it have been like that for a few months now. I keep telling my parents and myself that I will tidy it, but it doesn’t happen. I am satisfied and feel good once it is done, but somehow that is not enough to motivate me.
This is the same with homework and study. I just had exams, and I didn’t even study for them because I have NO self-motivation or self-discipline, and so I failed them all.
I want to lose weight and get fit. I thought I could start by walking my dogs every day… I did it once or twice and never again.
I can’t motivate or discipline myself.
I can’t even get up in the morning, because I am too lazy. My alarm is set for 6.30am, but I usually don’t end up getting up until 7.30 which makes me late for school.
I have tried drawing up a timetable for myself. I followed it for a day, refused to follow some things on it the next day – such as "walk dogs", I was like "nah, can’t be bothered." and then that was the end of that.
From the second I get home from school at 2.45pm, till the second I go to bed at 10pm (ish), I am on here. MySpace, Facebook, MSN… I can’t help it. Deleting them is not an option, so please don’t suggest that.
This is really bad and it bothers me SO much. Yet I can not help myself.
I’m not sure there is anything anyone out there will be able to say to help me.
But if you have any advice, it’d be greatly appreciated.
Thank you so much, and I’m sorry that this is so long.
Also, all of my teachers say that I have the ability to do really well and place in the top range of students, I just have to apply myself.
This is my last year of school and I want it to be an amazing one.
I want to impress everybody.
Thank you Jimbles and Nic. 
Thank you for your help Brigitta, but I’m pretty sure I don’t need to see a counselor. My friends aren’t like, not good people. I love them to death, they’re the best friends I’ve ever had.
And I’m not depressed, I don’t have anything to be depressed about.
Once again, thank you.
It sounds to me like you are depressed. Lack of motivation is a serious part of depression. Maybe you should tell your parents you would like to speak to a counselor just to get it checked out. Obviously this is something that is bothering you otherwise you would not be mentioning it at all. If you don’t want to do that you should sit down and think about how much better you feel when you do the "right" things.
School was very hard for me socially and it made me feel bad about myself. Is that the problem? It was easier for me to hang out with the not so good kids because then I didn’t have to be perfect. It seems like you wouldn’t have a problem with the grades if you felt better about other things. I think you should talk to your parents about seeing a counselor.
Good luck and hang in there. You seem like you’re pretty smart. I hope it works out for you!
Self motivation/control?
How does one build self motivation and train your self control?
Obviously I have none for nuitrition because I eat like crap ( I feel like I cant stop, thats the control part) and I cant find a way to motivate myself to stop doing it.
Is there a way to build any of those two? Can you tell me?
I have started a blog to keep my accounatble and heading forward to my weight loss goals.
I put up a daily food log of everything that I eat at the end of the day and I have my workout program there to.
Check it out here;
http://disciplineorregret.wordpress.com
I started 3 weeks ago and I have lost 5kg (11lbs) and I have built up a lot of muscle.
For guys adding an extra pound of muscle will help to burn off 50 calories per day.
I hope this helps!
Take care,
Andrew
Would You read/buy a book on Self improvment or self motivation?
thoughts or comments?
what topics do you suggest should would you say?
Yep…Self Improvement..I have enough self motivation. I like stuff like fitness books or parenting stuff. OR how to be successful books…all in all, I think the best Self Improvement book is the bible. Just my opinion.
Why is self-motivation important?
Why is self-motivation important in regards to the education system failing to create well-rounded students?
Why is it good to be a problem solver in today’s world?
Thanks
if you motivate yourself, you can set realistic goals and go for them…and eventually accomplish them!
being a problem solver…hey, maybe one day u will be the person to find the cure for cancer!
hey, im going for that…(going into oncology)…
good question! =) oh and your welcome!
what do you say to yourself for self motivation?
I believe in myself, so I can do anything.
How do you learn self-motivation and determination?
Hey Ryan, these are two separate issues and the latter is simply stubbornness to do something and in some cases pride, and we all know where that ends up. Self-motivation is acquired through introspection. Why or why do I not want to do this? Sometimes we must listen to that inner voice we all have and not push ourselves to do something, because it may hurt us. There are some good books out there on this subject as well. Have fun with this too because there is nothing better than finding out we have another part of us to get to know!
how to develop self-motivation?
they say that nothing is ugly in this world, except when you’re lazy fixing yourself..but sometimes i’m just too lazy esp. when i’m only at home..but then sometimes i get jealous on other girls because they’re so pretty, like my cousin…help me build my self-motivation on that!
It’s a matter of self discipline. But only desperate people do desperate things. A comfort zone is just that, it’s a velvet rut, for it’s apparent reasons. If you’re desperate to rise above your current level, then you have to have hit bottom, gotten sick & tired of being sick & tired, recognize the concept of the altitude of your attitude and make a CONSCIOUS decision about why you’re vacating that nowhere town.
Home is a comfort zone, as it should be. Let’s just make sure that we’re not using it as a hideout so that we don’t have to commit to anything. The issue is less about you being lazy than it is about you being on the verge of becoming a recluse so that you don’t have to face or compete with the rest of the world.
The fear has been instillled or installed because, yes, it does get ugly in this world, but even the most brave people you’ve ever heard of have also experienced that same fear. What is the difference between you and them? PERCEPTION!
People see things the way they’ve been ‘conditioned’ to see them. I’m not asking you to believe me, I’m challenging you to prove me wrong. That is how you build self-motivation, grab your passion and run with it. Whatever walls you come up against will cause you to perfect your theory. The walls aren’t there to stop you. They’re there to make you THINK and THINK again.
The design is designed to make you feel challenged and charged to the point that you find stronger and better TRUTH that LIVES inside of you. Life will continue to challenge you until you begin to ask the REALquestions of your SELF. There’s nothing nice about it, no so much that’s sweet, but if you can face the mission, that seems impossible at times, the purpose of all the ugly-ness is to DRIVE you to a better place. As I write this to you, it’s cathartic for me as well.
Life is not a destination; it’s a journey,,,,,,,,,and we get to make choices all along the way. Choose carefully and be wise.